It’s been recommended that you do not enter relationships as you attempt to become sober. If you are just beginning your sober journey you are considered vulnerable. You’ll be dealing with raw emotions and seeing things through sober eyes, for the first time in a very long time. You most definitely would need to distance yourself and break away from the individuals that may be responsible for triggering your drinking and drug use. Each situation is unique. Staying in contact with someone you only makes you cry, angry and depressed is not good for your sobriety. You should be leaning on people that are positive and can help you smile. Concentrate on family and mending those relationships if needed. Focus on finding new friends if the old ones don’t fit well anymore. Be open to love but don’t go hunting for it because you need to concentrate on your sobriety. Love is a powerful emotion and a powerful distraction—during the initial stages of sobriety you need to stay focused on you. Alcohol is a depressant and if you have a hard time being single and alone then it will just make you feel worse about it. When you are sober you obtain the strength to become comfortable with being single. You may even start to focus more on yourself, thinking of ways of how you can improve your life while you wait to meet the perfect mate. Spending time perfecting and improving your life will attract more people into your life. Who wants to date an alcoholic or someone that abuses drugs? It may not matter in the beginning but over time the effects of alcohol and drugs will take their toll on the relationship. It’s not a healthy relationship to be in when alcohol or drugs are constantly involved. Distance yourselves from others who are not in control of their own lives. You are trying to gain steady footing in your life and you don’t need to be near people who can drag you down again. This is not about judging people either; this is about getting yourself in the most positive situation possible to ensure your well being and happiness. Use your time being single and sober improving your life and adding joy to it. Finding joy isn’t always easy but if you look within you can find it. Mediation and being in nature is a great way to start and bring balance. Concentrate on stabilizing your life and ultimately you will attract the person that you are truly supposed to be with. How are you handling the single and sober life? If you are single and sad you must keep your chin up. Your cookie just isn't finished baking yet.